It might be the girl. ? Lorena's Epiphany

September 26, 2012 at 11:14 pm

When it comes to making a commitment in relationships ? sorry to say it ladies ? it?s sometimes you not the guy that?s not ready. In the past few weeks, I?ve seen women (friends of mine) leave long-term relationships with men that were essentially ready to commit and start building a future with these ladies. They were ready for marriage and family if I may put it so bluntly. Now isn?t that what every woman would want?

Nope! At least not as much as we?d previously thought and there are certainly reasons for this. Trust me, if they were the man in the relationship (not referencing the whole ?who wears the pants? kind of metaphor here), they?d be getting a bad rep for being a player, not being serious enough (or perhaps even loving enough)?and for wasting the girl?s time.

The roles are reversing ? even here in Lebanon. Ok, we?re still behind most Western cultures where both sexes have almost equal independence but there?s no denying women are becoming more empowered here (slowly but surely). Lebanese women are more educated and ambitious than ever before, many pursuing Masters? degrees and studying/working abroad. We?re getting exposed to that whole wide world out there and quite frankly, we?re loving it (who can blame us?) especially if we come from more conservative families.

So naturally while we?re out-and-about traveling, working, studying and basically pursuing our careers, our priorities change. For some relationships remain one, for others, it takes second place to other goals we want to achieve before getting tied down. Commitment, as such, becomes an anchor or something that might hold us back from that. I?m not saying that?s the case for most women who freak out when it comes to commitment, but it could be an explanation.

A more scientific explanation is revealed through an interesting study on dating habits:

?Men in just about every cohort are just as eager to marry or more eager to marry as women are. It?s not true that they don?t want to commit. Particularly young men, age 21 to 34, are more eager to marry than women are. Throughout every single cohort, men are more eager to have children than women are.. As women make more money, they are valuing their independence more, according to the survey. Long gone are the days when marriage was the only option.?says cultural anthropologist?Dr. Helen Fisher [Source]

Food for thought. I?d recommend reading the study for yourself as it reveals an interesting shift in stereotypes regarding which of the sexes is more ready to commit these days.

It might be the guy, but lately, it might be the girl.

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What do you think about all this? Are you noticing a change in pattern too?

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Entry filed under: From the Heart. Tags: Commitment, Dating Shift, Dr. Helen Fisher, Lebanon, Men Ready to Commit, relationships, Singles.

Source: http://lorenasepiphany.com/2012/09/26/it-might-be-the-girl/

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